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Think Win-Win
Habit 4
Question | Answer |
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what is basic principle of successful living? | You cant win in life unless other people win, too |
What is the main point of habit 4? | Building effective relationships with people by working for their benefit while you are working for your own benefit. |
What is the paradigm of Habit 4? | Win-Lose Lose-Win Lose-Lose Win-Win |
Win-Lose | "I'm going to beat you no matter what" |
Lose-Win | "I always get stepped on" |
Lose-Lose | "If I'm going down you're going down with me" |
Win-Win | "We're going to win together." |
Principles of people who think WIn-WIn or No Deal | Courage and Consideration |
Main Point of Habit 4 Module 12 | Make deposits in other people’s emotional bank accounts (EBA). The key to making friends is to deposit acts of kindess and helpfulness in their EBA’s. |
Find out what a deposit is for the other person | What you think is a deposit other person might think it's withdraw in their mind |
Do small acts of kindness | deposit which means treat people with kindness |
Keep promises | Nothing breaks the EBA faster than to break a serious promise. |
Keep confidences | When someone shares something with you in confidence, keep it that way. |
Be loyal to the absent | Avoid gossiping or back biting. If you bad mouth someone, the people listening to you will wonder if you’re doing the same to them behind their backs. |
Set clear expectations | Don’t leave things fuzzy and follow thru on whats expected |
Apologize | If you’re in the wrong, admit it now. |
Forgive | learn to forgive and to forget so that you don’t keep hurting yourself the way you were hurt. |
Two rules for making deposits | 1. A deposit is only a deposit if the other person sees it as a deposit. 2. It can take one or more deposits to make up for one withdrawal. |