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habit 4
habit 4 study cards
| topic | information |
|---|---|
| habit 4 | think win-win is essential to your meaningful life. it's a basic principle of successful living. if others don't win with you then you don't really win. |
| module 11: balance courage and consideration | you want to balance both to get a win-win or no-deal, because if you don't then you will only have win-lose, lose-win, and lose-lose. |
| win-lose | "I'm going to beat you no matter what." you are high on courage and low on consideration. you are always trying to beat or be better than others, but you can't win unless other people lose. |
| lose-win | "i always get stepped on." you are low on courage and high on consideration. you are insecure, and not brave enough to stick up for yourself. you get taken advantage of, and don't show emotion well. mentally make yourself a permanent victim. |
| lose-lose | "If I'm going down, you're going down with me." you feel that if you don't win then no one else should. you get revenge, and envy and criticize others. always putting others and yourself down. |
| win-win or no-deal | "we're going to win together." you only go for win-win or no-deal. always ready to walk away before someone loses. balancing courage and consideration to help others and you feel good. |
| module 12: make deposits in other people's emotional bank accounts (EBAs) | look at your relationships as a bank account. you can make deposits and withdraws, but they are emotional deposits and withdrawals. deposits help the relationship and withdraws hurt it. |
| find out what a deposit is for the other person | you need to think about the deposit you are going to make for the other person, because they may see it as a withdraw instead. |
| do small acts of kindness | a 2nd deposit is to treat people with kindness. the withdraw is to be unkind, discourteous, and disrespectful. if you want to make friends take the initiative, be kind to others, and make connections while making deposits. |
| keep promises | nothing bankrupts the emotional bank accounts faster than breaking a serious promise. it is very important to keep your word "I promise." |
| keep confidence | when someone shares a secret with you in confidence, keep it that way. be careful about what you post about others on social media, because that can get you in a lot of trouble. |
| be loyal to the absent | avoid gossiping about others behind there back. the people listening will think you do the same to them when they are not there as well. stick up for people idf you see someone doing this. |
| set clear expectations | don't leave things unclear, and always follow through on what's expected. |
| apologize | if you're in the wrong admit it now. don't wait and make excuses for your behavior instead of apologizing because that will cause a much larger withdrawal. |
| forgive | learn to forgive and forget so that you don't keep hurting yourself the way you were hurt. don't let yesterday hold your tomorrow hostage. getting revenge and talking about other people's failures won't help you. |
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