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Habit 4: Win-Win
Study Flashcards for Habit 4: Think Win-Win.
Term | Definition |
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I Win-You Lose Mindset | "I am going to beat you no matter what." [Prideful/Selfish] Considers self only when making decisions. |
I Lose-You Win Mindset | "I always get stepped on." [Victim] Considers others only when making decisions. |
I Lose- You Lose Mindset | "If I am going down, you are going down with me." [Vengeful] Considers neither self or others when making decisions. |
I Win- You Win Mindset | "We are going to win together." [Considerate/Balanced] Considers both self and others when making decisions. |
High Courage | Stands up for self. |
Low Courage | Does not not stand up for self. |
High Consideration | Stands up for others. |
Low Consideration | Does not stand up for others. |
I Win- You Lose Courage and Consideration Matrix Values | Courage: High Consideration: Low |
I Lose- You Win Courage and Consideration Matrix Values | Courage: Low Consideration: High |
I Lose- You Lose Courage and Consideration Matrix Values | Courage: Low Consideration: Low |
I Win- You Win Courage and Consideration Matrix Values | Courage: High Consideration: High |
Emotional Deposit | Positive Influence on Person and Relationship |
Emotional Withdraw | Negative Influence on Person and Relationship |
To find out what someone considers a deposit... | You ask... |
Small Acts of Kindness | Emotional Deposit |
Unkindness and Disrespect | Emotional Withdraw |
Keep Promises | Emotional Deposit |
Break Promises | Emotional Withdraw |
Keep Confidences | Emotional Deposit |
Humilate | Emotional Withdraw |
Be Loyal | Emotional Deposit |
Gossip/Badmouth | Emotional Withdraw |
Declare /Follow Expecations | Emotional Deposit |
Vague/Do Not Follow Expectations | Emotional Withdraw |
Apologize | Emotional Deposit |
Make Excuses | Emotional Withdraw |
Forgiveness | Emotional Deposit |
Hold Grudge | Emotional Withdraw |
A deposit is only a deposit if... | The other person sees it as a deposit. |
One Withdraw will... | Require serveral deposits to make up for it. |