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P4S Habit 4
Term | Definition |
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What is Win-Lose thinking? | "I'm going to beat you no matter what." If you're high on courage and low on consideration, you're always trying to get ahead of others. You can't win unless someone else loses. |
Is Win-Lose thinking effective? | No |
What is Lose-Win thinking? | "I always get stepped on." If you're low on courage and high on consideration, you're insecure. Victim complex mentality. This was not you, because you didn't have a victim complex. You were just a victim. There is a difference. |
Is Lose-Win thinking effective? | No |
What is Lose-Lose thinking? | "If I'm going down, you're going down with me." You envy and criticize others. You put others and yourself down. Low courage and low consideration. |
Is Lose-Lose thinking effective? | No |
What is Win-Win or No Deal thinking? | "We're going to win this together!" You're ready to walk away before someone loses including yourself. High courage and high consideration. |
Is Win-Win or No Deal thinking effective? | Yes, but I worry it's ignoring the importance of accepting failure. |
What is an example of a small act of kindness as a deposit into someone's Emotional Bank Account (EBA)? | Smile at people you walk past. Open yourself up to interaction. Compliment someone's outfit. |
What is an example of keeping promises as a deposit into someone's Emotional Bank Account (EBA)? | Commit and follow through. Don't half-ass things for other people. |
What is an example of keeping confidences as a deposit into someone's Emotional Bank Account (EBA)? | Don't share secrets after someone trusted you with them. Respect trust. |
What as an example of being loyal to the absent as a deposit into someone's Emotional Bank Account (EBA)? | Avoid gossiping and speak up against people who are. Don't expect anything in return from the person you're defending. |
What is an example of setting clear expectations as a deposit into someone's Emotional Bank Account (EBA)? | Don't leave things fuzzy and then follow through. |
What is an example of apologizing as a deposit into someone's Emotional Bank Account (EBA?) | Own up to mistakes and hold yourself accountable. Admit to mistakes and don't wait to do it. |
What is an example of forgiveness as a deposit into someone's Emotional Bank Account (EBA)? | Forgive and forget people who deserve it. Not everyone is entitled to forgiveness. If they don't deserve it, deposit something into your own EBA by respecting yourself to establish that boundry. |