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Habit 4
Think Win-Win
Term | Definition |
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Think Win-Win | The Habit of Mutual Habit. |
Balance and Courage | i can build effective relationships with people by working on their benefit as well as my own. |
Win-Lose | If you are on courage and low on consideration you are always trying to get ahead of others you are on the upper-left corner, which means you're lown in consideration and high on courage. |
Lose-Win | If you are low on courage and high on consideration you are always insecure. |
Lose-Lose | "If I'm going down you're going down with me". If you can't win nobody wins. If you're on the bottom-left corner you're both low in consideration and courage. |
Win-Win or No Deal | "We are going to win together". Balancing courage and consideration is the way to help others feel good and for you to feel good too. ultimately, it's the upper-right corner where you want to be, high on courage and consideration. |
Make Deposits in Other people's Emotional Bank Accounts | I can make deposits of kindness and helpfulness into other people's Emotional Bank Accounts. When I do this. it's easier for me to make new friends and build strong relationships. |
Find out what deposit is for the other person | What you think is a deposit for the other person may in fact be a withdrawal in their mind. |
Do small acts of kindness | A second deposit to treat people with kindness. |
Keep Promises | Nothing bankrupts EBA faster than to break a serious promise. |
Keep Confidence | When someone shares a secret with you in confidence keep it that way. |
Be Loyal to the absent | Avoid gossiping and backbiting. If you bad-mouth someone, the people listening to you will wonder if you are doing the same to them. |
Set Clear Expectations | Don't leave things fuzzy. With roommates: "I'll cook if you'll clean the kitchen". |
Apologize | If you're in wrong admit now: "That was unkind of me, I apologize". |
Forgive | Learn to forgive and forget so that you don't keep hurting yourself he way that you were hurt. |