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Habit 4 Study Guide
Habit 4 Study Guide- Think Win-Win
Term | Definition |
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Win-Lose | High on Courage, You can't win unless others lose. "You don't need to outrun the bear, you just need to outrun the bear". |
Lose-Win | Low on Courage High on Consideration. Victim mentality, insecure. "Have your way with me". |
Lose-Lose | If you cant win, nobody wins mentality. You get revenge, envy and criticize others. "If I'm going down, you're going down with me". |
Win-Win or No Deal | Balancing courage and consideration is the way to help others feel good and for yourself as well. "Were going to win together". |
EBA's | Consider your relationship with a friend to be an Emotional Bank Account, a deposit is a contribution and a withdrawal is a negative blow to the relationships "Account". |
Find Out What a Deposit Is for the Other Person | Be considerate of the Other Persons Thoughts and Emotions and what brings them joy, and that joy is a "Deposit". |
Do Small Acts of Kindness | Treating others with Kindness is a second form of an "Emotional Deposit". kindness is the initiative to creating relationships. |
Keep Promises | Nothing bankrupts the EBA faster than a broken promise, make good on your word. |
Keep Confidence | The feeling that one can rely on you, should stay intact. Don't share the problems of one to others. |
Be Loyal to the Absent | Avoid gossiping or backbiting and stick up for people. If one gossips over another, those listening may believe you gossip over them as well. |
Set Clear Expectations | Don't leave things Fuzzy or in the air, follow through on what is expected. |
Apologize | If you are in the wrong, Apologize. Making excuses instead of bettering things turns into a bigger withdrawal. |
Forgive | Learn to Forgive and to forget so that you don't keep hurting yourself the way you were hurt. |