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Habit 4
The Habit of Mutual Benefit
Habit 4 | Think Win-Win |
Win-Lose: | You are someone who is high in courage and low on consideration, you're always trying to get ahead of others or be better than other people. You're proud. |
Lose-Lose: | If you can't win, nobody wins. You get revenge. You are both low on consideration and courage. |
Lose-Win: | If you're low on courage and high on consideration, you're insecure. You're not brave enough to stick up for yourself. |
Win-Win or No Deal: | You're ready to walk away before someone loses- including yourself. Balancing courage and consideration is the way to help others feel good and for you to feel good too. You have both high courage and consideration. |
Find out what a deposit is for the other person: | What you think is a deposit for the other person may in fact be a withdrawal in their mind. You won't know unless you find out. |
Do small acts of kindness. | A second deposit is to treat people with kindness. The opposite-the withdrawal-is to be unkind, discourteous, and disrespectful. |
Keep Promises: | With big withdrawals, like lies or broken promises, you break trust. It takes a long time to rebuild an Emotional Bank Account. |
Be Loyal to the Absent: | Avoid gossiping or backbiting. If you bad-mouth someone, the people listening to you will wonder if you're doing the same to them behind their back. Stick up for people. |
Set Clear Expectations: | Don't leave things fuzzy. Follow Through on what's expected. |
Apologize: | If you're in the wrong, admit it now. Making excuses instead of making things better turns into an even bigger withdrawal. |
Forgive: | Learn to forgive and forget so that you don't keep hurting yourself the way you were hurt. |