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Habit 4
Think Win-Win
Question | Answer |
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How can you build effective relationships with people? | By working for their benefit and my own. |
Win-Lose | You can't win unless other people lose. |
Lose-Win | Permanent victim mentality and are always looking for sympathy. |
Lose-Lose | If you can't win, nobody wins. |
Win-Win or No Deal | You're ready to walk away before someone loses- including yourself |
What is the great secret to all great relationships? | Balancing courage and consideration. |
People who live win-win or no deal live with? | Courage and consideration. |
Example of Lose-Win | Your roommate treats you like a doormat. |
Example of Lose-Lose | Not telling your very qualified friend about a scholarship you didn't get. |
Example of Win-Lose | "I don't need to outrun the bear, I just need to outrun you." |
Example of Win-Win or No Deal | Letting an opponent that fell while running win because they rightfully would have won. |
Why should I make deposits of helpfulness and kindness into other people's Emotional Bank Accounts | It will be easier for me to make new friends and build strong relationships. |
Something that hurts a relationship | A withdrawl. |
Something that helps a relationship | A deposit. |
Should you find out other people's deposit? | YES! What you think is a deposit might be a withdrawal in their mind. Best to ask! |
Do Small Acts of Kindness | Treat people with kindness if you want to deposit into your "EBA." |
What breaks the "EBA" fastest? | Breaking promises |
Can you quickly rebuild the "EBA"? | No! It takes time and trust. |
Keep confidences | When someone shares something confidential, keep it that way. |
Be Loyal to the Absent | Avoid gossiping or stabbing others in the back. |
Set Clear Expectation | Don't leave room for misinterpretation, then follow through. |
Apologize | If you're in the wrong, just admit it. |
What does making excuses instead of apologizing lead to? | An even bigger withdrawl. |
Forgive | Don't let yesterday hold your tomorrow hostage. |