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Module 4 Study Guide
Study Guide
Term | Definition |
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Build Effective relationships with people by working for their benefit as well as your own | Find out what a deposit is for the other person; what you think is a deposit for the other person may in fact be a withdrawal in their mind. |
Keep confidences, Be loyal to the absent, Set clear expectations, Apologize, and forgive. | Keep promises, nothing bankrupts the EBA faster- even if the account has a huge balance- than to break a promise, lies or broken promises are big withdrawals, you break trust. |
Win/Lose | high on courage and low on consideration, you're always trying to get ahead of others or be better than other people. |
Lose/Win | Low on courage and high on consideration, you're insecure, you have a permanent victim mentality, and you're always looking for sympathy. |
Lose/Lose | "If I'm going down, you're going down with me". You get revenge, you envy and criticize others, you put other people down (and often yourself too) |
Win/Win- or no deal | "we're going to win together" Balancing courage and consideration is the way to help others feel good and for you to feel good too. |
Courage and Consideration Matrix | high Win/Lose Win/Win- or no deal courage Lose/Lose Lose/Win Low high consideration |
When you do this, it's easier to make new friends and build stronger relationships | Make deposits of kindness and helpfulness into other people's emotional bank accounts. |
Deposit | When you do something that helps the relationship. Do small acts of kindness. A second deposit is to treat people with kindness. |
Withdrawal | When you do something that hurts the relationship. To be unkind, discourteous, and disrespectful. |
Rules for making deposits | 1.) A deposit is only a deposit if the other person see's it as one. 2.)It can take one or more deposits to make up for one withdrawal. |